Proverbs 15:1 is one of the funniest verses I have ever read in the Bible…
“A SOFT answer turns away wrath…”
What? Are you really saying that I can actually give people a soft answer when they’re hammering me with grievous words and by doing that, I will be driving wrath away? I do not want to drive wrath away! I want to find any excuse to pour mine out! So bring it on! And Excuse me, God… but, did you miss the fact that I am a woman? … And not any woman, I am LATINA and I am fire! …By the way, this would be your answer if you were me. The reality is that ANGER does not know culture; it does not get rooted in us because we are Hispanic or from any other ethnic group under heaven and what you do when you are angry is a choice.
So how can we answer like the Bible says in the midst of conflict? I asked the Lord: How can I apply Proverbs 15:1 in the middle of conflict and give a good, positive, sarcasm-FREE, well-balanced answer?
Let me suggest these little steps that I got from the Lord in my prayers but keep in mind that every person is different, and that you still need to bring your anger to the Lord and ask Him for guidance and allow His love to embrace those not so good-looking areas of our lives.
1. Try not to be involved in a “heated” moment: Have you noticed that when we get angry we look for people who can just answer us back and react negatively to us so we can pour our wrath on them? We even get mad at people when they answer us “softly” and we keep pushing for a good fight. Take control over your feelings, go to a place where you can be alone and find a positive way to calm down, or meditate on this from the book of Proverbs 29:11 “Fools give full vent to their rage BUT THE WISE bring calm in the end”, Proverbs 12:16 “fools show they annoyance at one but the prudent overlook an insult. “
2. ANGER Makes things worst: What is your goal in every argument? Is your goal to prove that you are right? Or is it to understand what is going on and find a good positive solution? My husband used to say to me “Sometimes I might have a good point too…” Lol! Proverbs 15:1 also says that GRIEVOUS words stir up anger. Grievous words are oppressive, they target the core of the person, they are oppressive offences that cause sorrow and pain in the soul… no wonder why people reacts the way they do when we use those words against them! Be fully aware of your answer, LISTEN TO YOURSELF argue, pay attention to how you handle arguments, we might think that our pain from the words we are listening to justifies us answering back harshly but before the Lord we have a choice…. “bring health into the argument or make it worst”
There’s no shame in being angry, or mad at something such as life, your boss, your spouse, or anybody… getting anger is a human right, but we should be ashamed if ANGER is the last voice in our lives and we are living under its regimen, hurting people around us, killing them on the inside feeling we have the right to, we have a right to get angry over things done to us, but also the RIGHT to choose our attitude and the outcome, so what do we choose? Shall we make this worst or shall we make this better? It is our choice. We all have the right to remain silent when we have nothing good to say. which does not mean that I can use my silence to hurt or manipulate those around me neither.